On the way home from a family trip, we watched
What I keep wondering is how different the movie (and themes) would be if the siblings were brothers. How often do we get to see the sensitive side of boys? How do little boys deal with being shut out?
"Do you wanna build a snowman? C'mon, let's go and play. I never see you anymore; come out the door. It's like you've gone away. We used to be best buddies, and now we're not. I wish you would tell me why. It doesn't have to be a snowman. (Go away, Anna.) Okay, bye."
Now, imagine a little boy singing this. (Jason told me lyrics, while Jesse sang along.) Even with boys, the many girly Disney tunes are sung in our house (lol).
Siblings have a very unique bond, and only in fiction are there perfect families. At a retreat group a lifetime ago, my sisters and I were in charge of a talk about family life. I quoted Tupac, apparently, (I only knew/analyzed his lyrics in my adult life) when I said that it's "us against the world." It felt like it to me; we were our playmates after school, weekends, parties, celebrations... My extended family is so large that cousins/siblings became our first friends. These parties, hang-outs, birthdays, milestones, etc. would not have less than 30 people involved. On the other hand, my husband's blood relatives lived in so many places that the neighborhood kids were the 'family friends' who partied, hung out together. A newer example I encountered was alternating years of birthday celebrations: even years are with family, odd years with friends. Regardless of who is considered family, the bonds are what make "different flowers from the same garden."
Take Google's circles, or any social media site. We categorize the people in our lives "family" or "friends." I guess sometimes they blend, but we are forced to choose. These categories are not set in stone. We can choose to "unfriend" or "unfollow" someone when we feel like it. We can choose to not hang out or not call back in the real world. Whichever the circumstances, life sometimes gives us pieces of ice that end up freezing our hearts. Some people in our circles can help us deal with these, but ultimately we have a choice (as in "Frozen") to move forward and thaw these frozen hearts.
How do I make sure that I'm not causing an icicle in the boys' hearts? An observant non-parent said, "any little thing you say or do may potentially have a profound impact on your child." Kids definitely take in everything around them, especially during the toddler years. An author on the Huffington Post gets it. So many times I find myself losing my patience or saying or doing something without thinking about how it'll affect the boys. Example, everything on Facebook shows off the side that we want to be seen. Watch this video (that I did not post on FB or IG):